Condemned and Happy

 In this episode Simon talks about the trauma associated with Evangelical/Christian Nationalists view of masculinity. Men are to be leaders. All men. But if all men are leaders who is in charge? How can an organization move in any direction if every male is his own leader and is fighting for his own agenda? Simon points out some of these obvious flaws in his experience of growing up in a High Demand Church were all males are told they need to be leaders.  Simon also discusses his unease with the model of leadership presented. In my opinion (Kim's), the type of masculinity Simon's religion exposed him to is not consistent with the teachings of Jesus. Jesus pushed ''servant leadership", where instead of insisting on the honor or being the warrior in the room, he was the one who served. Much of Jesus' teachings upends the society of his time's view of masculinity--talking to women, healing all people including women and foreigners, and riding to Jerusalem on a...

 Ok I am really behind on the blogs.  In the episode on ADHD and Religious Trauma, Berta talks about how it feels to be an adult who is differently abled. Too many times we expect ADHD to be a children's disease or disability, but it is not. Perhaps some people do "out grow" ADHD, but more likely they develop coping mechanisms to mask their ADHD. Some coping mechanisms might be leaving notes in places so as to not forget to do something. Or a coping mechanism Penn from the Holderness Family talks about is wearing Cargo pants so he can keep his must haves in one place. Other coping mechanisms might look like multiple alarms on a smart phone, notes in various colors so they stand out, color codes, labels, nearly anything to help keep track of things. One thing I have noticed having raised an ADHD child now adult is how difficult it can be for some with ADHD to organize space-- a room, paperwork, clothing.  One thing that really struck me in this conversation was Berta remin...