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Ray is a survivor of Religious trauma. He was raised in a High Demand Church tradition in a manner similar to the Duggar family. If you are not familiar with this show, google Shiny Happy People.
 
Kim is a pastor in the ELCA, the more liberal branch of the Lutheran Church. Ordained in 2001, Kim has served 4 congregations. Kim is GenX, raised in a low demand typical family of that time. Kim is also Ray's Aunt.


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